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msb-0318 Shauna's Dating Herself

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Max Headroom = Song From Art Of Noise called Paranoimia

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Intro

Disclaimer! Disclaimer! Disclaimer!

Survey

Feedback comes first, so...

I'm "not" switching topics, but I see a glimmer of hope ... a glow on the horizon ... a direction that we can all change towards.

More in the "next" episode.

---- "First Date" by: "Danko Jones" http://www.dankojones.com/

FeedForward

---- "Movie Date" by: "Redefining the Moment" http://www.myspace.com/redefiningthemoment

FeedMe

---- "Robert Lund - My Men's Room Date's A Senator" by: "The FuMP" http://www.thefump.com/

"Thesis:"

Shauna's dating.

I know... Isn't that ever so sweet?

Heck I was married with MS... Twice.

It has never been a factor in my personal life.

My professional life... Yeah.

Right now MS is an absolute bitch.

Not for the potential employers. Even if they wanted me, the HMOs threaten to jack up everybody's premiums and that's a very effective barrier isn't it.

So now I'm slowly going through my life's savings. Good thing I have less life to go through than savings. (I hope.)

---- "Date with the rain" by: "37Hz" http://37hz.net/

"Synthesis:"

The Dating Game

The dating scene is tough enough for most of us. Add to that a diagnosis of MS (or any chronic illness for that matter) and it can be a little more than discouraging. 

About 5 years ago, I began online dating. Honestly, I had a blast. I met some incredible jerks and some really great guys and I had some of the funniest dating stories to share with friends. It was never an issue for me to tell my dates that I had MS, most of them, anyway.

It does not define me, but where I am so involved in fundraising for the MS Society and making public appearances for the cause, it is extremely important to me.

On your online profile you are supposed to indicate hair and eye colour, body type or size, likes, dislikes, etc. If you are on a disabled online dating site, you may be asked to disclose your disability.

But what if your disability or condition isn't quite so obvious? Like with MS. Many of us are not disabled and I couldn't in good conscience join one of those sites. So do you say on your profile that you have MS? Or is that akin to saying you have three heads? If I read a guy's profile and it said he had kids under the age of 18, I immediately crossed him off the list (I was not interested in dating someone with kids that young). Should I hold it against someone who would immediately cross me off his list after having read I have MS?

I did not indicate on my profile that I have MS. But it would be brought up in either online conversation or on our first meeting. Nobody ran away screaming, but a few guys were put off right away. Such is life. Some guys confused MS with MD. Some guys appeared not to be concerned about it, and that bothered me. Of all the guys I dated only one has become an actual friend.

And one has become more than a friend   John clicked with me from almost the very beginning. He had a friend with MS and his mom was a neuro nurse. He has since become the love of my life. And he gives me a shot in my backside every week. (That reminds me...I'll have to write a post soon about the medication I take for the MS)   I guess the reason for writing this is to show that you can have a social life with MS.

Choosing to have a social life may be the hardest part.

---- "First Date" by: "Greg Federico" http://gregfederico.com/

"Conclusion:"

Strange isn't it?

Having MS has never put my love/personal life on hold.

I just figured it was a part of growing up. (My father was one of Québec's first dialysis recipient under the Canadian socialized health policy. I just grew up with it. It was no big deal.)

Its only a big deal here in the 'States.

That's because they aren't very realistic down here.

How immature...

Everybody dies, but you'd never know it here in the 'States.

Everybody gets sick, but you'd never know it here in the 'States.

Some people stay sick too, but you'd never know it here in the 'States.

Its all white teeth, white skin and the sun shines outta my ass, here in the 'States.

At least that the lie the life contestants tell each other as they drag each other on the dance floor while they pretend not to hear the horses getting shot and being ground into 'burgers...

---- "The Rosochacha" by: "Greg Federico" http://gregfederico.com/

Outro

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Theme and 'incidental music' from:

"msb_theme",

by: "Guy David",

http://www.guydavid.com/

no album,

via personal contract

Song list

"First Date"

by: "Danko Jones"